When I waiting for surgery and the pain in a particular joint drained my energy. It was so hard to be positive when all I could think of was the pain. This affected my relationships, my job and my state of mind.
When we’re struggling with situations in our lives it can be draining and we feel as if we don’t have much energy.
What I learnt from this situation was that I had to allow myself to go through the pain and heal it so that I could heal on an emotional level also.
The surgery went really well…But during the surgery and rehabilitation period, I contracted a virus and ended up having 3 operations instead of one and 16 weeks off work.
It took me even longer to heal from the situation even when my body seemed to be fine.
I believe that it took me a lot longer to heal during this time because I never let myself really let go and feel how shitty I actually felt. I was constantly thinking if I remain positive I will be a good role model for others and that will help me through. I was living with the intent of ‘put others first, that is what your life is about’…Ummm…no. That is all I have to say about that. YOU are the most important person in your life. YOU are the only one that can really help you achieve what you want. When you put others needs and feelings above your own, you will suffer because there is no dedication to your own life’s purpose.
When times are tough, you need to allow yourself to feel what you need to feel and not be ashamed of it. A vulnerability to life is such an important emotion to have, you will be stronger, wiser and have lived the life you’re meant to when you embrace your vulnerability.
So, what do you need to start today? When someone asks you how you’re going, tell him or her the truth and if for whatever reason they can’t handle it, know it’s not about you. Some people can’t handle emotions, but this exercise isn’t about them. This exercise is about you.
Now, once you’ve opened up this doorway keep in mind that if you continually talk about your problems, you will continue to live in them. But, if you express how you feel and then look at how you can grow or heal from them you will move forward. This is such a powerful moment for you – take it with both hands.