My family is so blessed, aside from the very obvious love we have for one another and the support we can draw on at any moment, we have incredible blessings in our lives in the form of two beach holiday destinations.
My Nana lives in a beautiful house that her and my Pa called their home for about 25 years in Anglesea, the house is just off the Great Ocean Road and you can get to the beach in about 5 minutes. We've spent many days down at Point Roadknight beach as well as many Christmas afternoons and nights with the family.
This year was no different with a short jaunt to the ocean about 5 pm after a luscious lunch at my Aunties house just out of Anglesea.
On December 27, we headed off on a 5.5-hour drive to our other holiday house in South East Gippsland, my Dad's Dad brought the block about 40 years ago and then built a three bedroom tin house on it. We live with gas fridges, water tanks and a lot of solar panels. This place is paradise and you can only get in by boat. There's hardly any phone reception and only 17 houses in the whole inlet.
It's the perfect place to get away from it all and just be, you can read as many books as you want, swim as much as you want and go for walks to your heart's content.
This place always gives me space to reflect I do a LOT of journaling, drawing and card readings while I'm there. But the thing that struck me the most while I was away (and that I can't stop thinking about now) was how judgy and negative I've been over the last few months. Mostly about myself and what's been going on for me. I have been hard work!
I know it's absolutely valid to go through tougher times and moments when you feel like you're dragging your heels more than usual, but so much of that pain and annoyance and judgyness could have been healed and let go of with a little self-compassion, less comparison, and some good old time-out.
Sometimes we need to step back and stop for a second to see where we're at as well as to see how freaking wonderful our lives are. Not that I ever forgot that for a second, but I was putting expectations on myself and others for how things 'should be' and aren't nobody got time for that.
It's about cracking open the stale corners of your heart, breathing into every goddam cell in your being and exploding stunningly into FREEDOM - Musings from the Moon
So, like me, why not look at 2018 differently? Why not take the pressure off everyone and yourself to be something that you thought they were and just let them be? And, why not take the word 'should' out of your vocabulary? It only makes you feel like you have to do something, or someone has to be something when really, there is no right or wrong way, there's just a way to here from there and from there to here and back again.