A few years ago I had ankle surgery. It wasn’t something that I wanted to do. I put off the appointment with my surgeon for a really long time. Until my family told me that I needed to do something about it. After some initial appointments and after I decided I liked the surgeon, the surgery was booked in. The night before I was meant to go into hospital, a nurse rang me and told me that my surgeon had had an accident and was in hospital himself. They didn’t know how long it would be until he recovered, so they’d let me know when he was operating again.
I was devastated. It seemed so unfair, that I had finally given myself over the fact that I needed to have the surgery and now the universe wasn’t letting me have it. The day after the call I wrote a list. The top of the page said this; ‘What is the positive out of me not having the surgery when it was first planned?’
I looked at the situation and how I could turn it around to make me feel ‘ok’ about it. I couldn’t control the situation BUT I could control how I felt about it. My list said things like;
- to give my parents more time to prepare for me to be home after the surgery,
- I can drop more weight before the surgery so my rehabilitation is easier,
- I can finish the project at work I have been working on,
- I won't be so hot with my plaster because the weather will have changed a bit.
There is always a positive in everything! You can always change the way to think about things. Our reaction to situations is the most powerful way for us to control our happiness.
Why don’t you have a go at writing a list of the positive things that are coming out of the seemingly negative things in your life?