Is this your to-do list?
- Focus on the outcome - Have a goal, create steps to get you there. You don't need to share these steps with anyone else, methodically work through them at your own pace. You have no need to rush.
- Be Do Have - Be the person you want to be, then do the 'things' to get you to where you want to be and then you will have all your dreams come true.
- Refine your target market - If you don't know who you're talking too, you're probably talking to dead air, refine, refine, refine!
- Post on social media 3 times a week - at least
- Separate your business social and personal social accounts - The pictures of your cat or children are not relevant to your accounting firm, so don't post them. Also, when I'm looking at new Instagram accounts to follow, if there are too many photos that aren't relevant to that person's message, I don't follow.
- Make sure you make time for self-care - This is essential to achieving your goals. You must listen to your body and give yourself time off, there is no rush. You have all the time in the world and more importantly, if you're not looking after you, how are you meant to look after anyone else, let alone perform at your best.
- Hang out with people that light you up - People are in your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime, hang out with the people that make you feel alive. These people inspire you to be a better person. Let go of the people that drain you, put you down or are too negative. You can't heal them, they're fighting an internal battle.
- If you’re the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong room - Get out there, learn, meet new people, be challenged!
- Don’t worry about if it’s perfect, just get it out there - I used to never post anything for fear that it wouldn't be perfect, but in the end I was blocking myself from spreading my message, so I let go of perfectionism.
What if having your own business or the life that you wanted was just about doing what makes you happy and not putting so many rules on yourself?
I know you need to have some structure and a clear vision, but sometimes the striving to ‘have it all’ can get you to not having much at all. When you’re putting so many rules in place you’re blocking any opportunities for divine intervention to come your way.
You need to grow or change and evolve, I get it. But, have you been putting so much pressure on yourself to be a certain way that in the end it’s bringing you down, which then means you’re not really living or working from the light are you?
Take, ‘if you’re the smartest person in the room, you’re in the wrong room’ for example, I get it. I even agree with it to some extent, but I also believe that we need to be the smartest in the room too so that we can help others rise to their own occasions.
We don’t always have to be working and learning too. There can be moments when we just let our strategic mind go and relax. I hear so much about how if you want to be an entrepreneur or just succeed in something substantial in your life that you have to be working 100 hours a week, but still be drinking green smoothies, have a smile on your face and the perfect complexion.
This is unrealistic. I might work for a while, but it’s not sustainable. It’s the path to burnout and deep self-loathing.
You don’t have to be like everyone else, you can take snippets from others that make you feel great or behaviours that you feel will help you be the best version of yourself. But, you don’t have to be doing it all with a smile on your face, you don’t need to show that every bit of self-development you do is a breeze and you’re so happy, light and fulfilled the whole way through.
Give yourself a break. Stop comparing and just start creating things that make you happy and inspired.
Don’t put so many rules into play that in the end you end up burdening yourself with your own rules. It’ll just make you feel like shit and you don’t deserve to feel like that, you deserve to feel the best you have ever felt, ever.