You’re not self-sabotaging…
Last night on The Forest call we had a delicious group of 26 babes jump on, pick cards for the week and chat about life.
One of the topics that came up and that has been coming up for me in the last few weeks was this idea of self sabotage and how the spiritual industry uses this term to often gaslight people into believing they’re the creator of their perceived problems.
This really frustrates me, because I’ve have been told by so many healers over the years if I just loved myself more I’d be in a loving romantic relationship with my soulmate, if I just loved myself more I wouldn’t be in pain and I’d experience more freedom in my body, If I stopped self sabotaging my abundance, I’d be a 45 million figure coach now.
No.
For the most part, no.
If you’re not connecting with a person, don’t automatically come to the conclusion that you’re self sabotaging the relationship or the situation - this is a marketing tool from healers to get you to come and have a healing. Yep, they’re a grossi people in the spiritual community too.
If you’re not where you wanna me financially, you may not be self sabotaging, you may in fact need to find yourself a good money coach, a friend who is ace at budgeting or some tips on how better to manage your cash (maybe you didn’t have money role models like your mate from work, that not self sabotage, that’s privilege). Or, you could just be in a job that doesn’t pay that much and it’s a time in your life when you’re just there, you are not necessarily sabotaging yourself.
Self sabotaging means, you have a conscious or an unconscious thought pattern or belief that is stopping you from achieving something you desire in your life. But we often forget, that we are playing with the universe in all actions that we take and sometimes, what is best for us in that moment, what is the delicious gift is to not get what we think we ‘need’.
Sometimes you’re not sabotaging the relationship, sometimes the universe is moving someone out of the way for the better person to come along, or to give you space to heal from past trauma or to focus on your career for a bit. This doesn’t mean your energy is wrong, it means it’s directed at another thing for the time being.
I’m no longer available to the belief that I am a bad person who hasn’t made the right choices because someone else told me I’m not believing in myself enough or my manifestation technique is ‘off’. What I am here for is; loving, living and enjoying every moment, the moments that feel a bit wobbly too. Ohhh yes, cos they’ve got some juicy lessons.
My darlings. You are not broken. You are perfect as you as. When you see that being yourself is the ultimate gift to yourself and the universe if your desires are meant for you in this life time. They will come to you, trust that.
